Competing with other women is a common phenomenon. In our day and society, it’s sometimes even encouraged. However, we don’t have to keep falling for the same trap and lies. Frankly, we’re going nowhere fast for women if we can’t learn to work together instead of turn against each other. Yes, we get jealous. Yes, we may even sometimes wish we had her life. But that doesn’t mean we stop there. Here are some ways to stop competing with other women.

Cherish the sisterhood.

There is something special about womenhood. We have an inexplicable connection between other women simply because there is a sameness about us. This is great! We’re never alone. We always have people rooting for our successes. We always have friends to turn to who understand our challenges and our joys. By cherishing the sisterhood that we were born into, we can learn to root for all women.

Remember this one key phrase.

One woman’s success is not your failure. Whenever I read this phrase the first time, it hit home. I was in a place where every person’s success seemed like my personal failure because I couldn’t match it. This is not true. Her success is not your failure. You are your own person and she is hers. Jealousy can be incredibly entangling. Don’t get lost in someone else’s life and forget your own.

Put your blinders on.

One of the ways not to get consumed in someone else is to put some emotional blinders on. Temporarily unfollow their social media. Don’t listen to gossip about the person. When you see them, take away the mental measuring stick you hold yourself against. Jealousy is a hungry emotion. Don’t feed the giant and expect it to disappear.

Be smart. Don’t assume.

that she is successful. We assume that everything comes easy to her. With social media offering such a large access into people’s lives, we can easily assume and imagine what their day-to-day looks like. However, whatever you see and hear is not the whole story. Everybody is human. If it looks too good to be true, it probably is. However, that’s not my primary concern. How much time are spending examining somebody else’s blessings and neglecting your own? That’s the question I ask myself to get myself out of a slump.

Give praise.

Ultimately, there are probably a lot of wonderful things you can say about this woman or women. If you’re feeling jealous or competitive with someone, there’s something there that you admire. Instead of resenting it, take the opportunity to acknowledge those great parts. If you’re too shy to tell her to her face, then acknowledge it in writing in a journal.