3 Things You Can Do Today to Feel More Empowered

We all want to feel empowered. Empowerment is confidence. It’s joy. It’s peace.

Empowerment comes easily to us when we’re feeling good about life. When things are going well, we feel well. We feel like we can walk tall. But, damn, when things are not going well, or not as well as we hoped, empowerment can seem like a joke.

The truth about feeling empowered is that it’s a natural thing to feel. When we become unbalanced because life flips a switch, things change (sometimes for the worse), or we’re feeling upset with ourselves and our circumstances, we stray from what should be innate and cling to habits instead.

It’s your prerogative to feel empowered. This not about learning about how to feel empowered, but about how to return to balance and to get back in-touch with your innate power.

Stop playing the victim.

Yes, that can sound harsh, especially if you feel like you’re going through an exceptionally difficult time right now. The thing about life is that it’s going to keep throwing you challenges, hard situations, and painful moments. Life will keep going through all those things. It’s up to you to decide if you’re going to keep up or fall by the wayside.

Some wallowing is okay. It’s okay to feel down about down situations. However, where we tend to get stuck is that we keep staying down. We fall into a mentality that because it’s bad right now, it’ll never be good again. That is a large part of victim mentality.

Whenever you’re the victim, things “just happen” to you. But, when you change your mindset to something more empowering, you not only are able to move with the flow of life, but you’re able to enjoy it and find peace.

Change your mindset from “Why does this keep happening to me?” to “What is this trying to teach me?” and watch new doors open wide.

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Recognize that you are the only one who has control over how you feel.

Too often, we throw the reins of our life into someone else’s hands without a second thought. Usually, said person has some unsolicited (typically cruel) opinion. We’re so swayed by that opinion because it touches an insecurity that we feel deeply. Thus, whenever someone comes in and takes a jab at an open wound, we tell ourselves that our insecurity must be true because this opinion is only confirmation.

Confidence is not something that happens overnight. It’s a skill that needs to be consciously practiced regularly and intentionally. You can read more about finding your confidence here.

It doesn’t matter who says what about you. Everyone is going to have an opinion. Everyone is going to have an opinion. However, you are the only one with context. Nobody has the same amount of knowledge and context about your life than you. Nobody knows your heart and why you do the things you do better than you.

So, why hand over all that power so easily? You have the final say. Every. Single. Time.

When someone starts to jab at places that make you want to react, you have total and complete power to pause. You have the power to step back from the situation. You have the power to say, “My emotions are my own. They are not the play things of others”. You have the power to decide how much time you need before you respond. You are the only one who has the power over you.

Don’t be swayed by fear.

A life lived in fear is not a life. I know fear intimately. As much as fear gets our hearts and minds racing, it’s not all bad. Sometimes, fear is just fear with no foundation.

We are not obligated to abide by our fears. Sure, we can listen to them. We have the ability to say, “I recognize you exist in me, but I do not give you more than that”.

More often than not, fear is a compass. It points to the things you should do. If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re much too small.

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