Break-ups are one of the hardest periods of our lives. Suffering a loss this intense can lead to equally intense emotions. Your primary focus after a break-up should be taking care of yourself. However, that’s not always clear cut, especially when we’re in the midst of a huge change. So, here are 3 things you should do right after your break-up.
Disengage from your ex.
The temptation is to check in on your ex. Resistance is futile. With social media being so readily available, this can quickly become a super challenge. You’re already in the midst of a challenge, so make things easier for yourself. Unfollow them on all social media accounts. Block them on your phone. Cut off the source. This will feeling drastic and dramatic. However, you need time for you without interference. When you need space, give yourself space.
Gather up your favorites.
Your favorite movies, songs, books, sweaters. Take a day for you. Everyone is different. For me, I love a good movie with stove-popped popcorn and a fine wine in my comfiest sweater. For you, it may be a run in the park. It may be curling up with a stellar cappuccino and great book. It may be throwing on red lipstick. Indulge in your absolute favorite things without worrying if it’s the “right” thing to do.
Round up the crew.
Your friends love you. Call the people who will have your back. You do not have to talk about your break-up. Again, if you feel like you need space, then give yourself space. But get in touch with someone. The power of being vulnerable and allowing someone else to witness your struggle is the essence of human connection. It’s how we let love in. Lean on the people who love to see you joyful. Allow them to be there for you in the ways you love to be there for them.
Another piece of this puzzle is asking your friends and family members to nix any updates on your ex. Obviously, these updates are presented because they believe they’ll help you feel better. However, it usually causes the opposite. Take the focus off of your ex and focus on yourself. You are #1 in this situation, so treat yourself that way.